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Opinion: Domestic violence can happen at any time

The mother of the 11-year old boy who was killed by his father last week, Rosie Batty, is an inspiration.

ELAINE COONEY February 18, 2014 2:15pm

The mother of the 11-year old boy who was killed by his father last week, Rosie Batty, is an inspiration.

Not only is she struggling with an unimaginable act of violence and the loss of her son, Luke, she is explaining her domestic situation to the world, which gives us some answers.

How selfless to address the shocked nation when she is recovering from a horrendous tragedy.

When my friend read out the breaking news update I was furious: furious at what happened; furious at the bystanders for not jumping in; furious at the media for focusing on such negative stories and furious that I could not unhear the story.

I curled up in pain and confusion at what we have become as a society.

It took me until Saturday to stomach reading about it.

When my partner said that the media was ‘‘dragging this out’’ my journalistic mind popped up and grabbed the paper, ‘‘well we all want to see the man who did this and’’flicking the pages‘‘hear what the mum has to say’’.

As I went up to pick up my coffee, my partner became engrossed in the story and passed it to me with a smile.

He was impressed with how the grim story was handled.

It focused more on the topic of mental illness and domestic violence rather than details of the event.

In the article, Rosie Batty opened up about her struggle with a violent partner and what she was doing to protect her family.

It looked like she did everything she could and wanted the best for her son.

Of course a mum would want the father to have access to her child in a safe environment.

And anyone with logical thinking would believe that cricket training was a safe environment because it is in the public eye and violent people don’t tent to strike when they are being watched.

Domestic violence is something mainly done indoors.

Sometimes we hear through the walls and open windows of private homes, but rarely do we see it in public.

That is why this crime has shocked us allnot just the act of killing your child, but in front of people.

It shows us that domestic violence can happen at any time. It does not have the boundaries we place on it.

I think everyone can learn from this tragedy and use that information to apply a new approach in the prevention and preparation for domestic violence.

My take-home was if I was ever involved with a violent person, the solution is to get very far away from them..., but that is more easily said than done for many people.

The centre for Non-Violence in Bendigo can help men and women cope with domestic violence. Call Women and Children’s Services on 54303000 or Men’s Programs on 54344100. Lifeline can be contacted on 131114.

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